I have no social life anymore.
Since I started working graveyard shift, I don't really see anyone that I know anymore. I get on the bus to go to work around 9 PM, and work until 6 AM. I get on the bus, and go home. I don't talk to anyone on the bus, and nobody even really looks my way. I'm pretty incognito. Just some guy who looks like an Amish leprechaun wearing a sweatshirt and a leather jacket listening to his headphones.
I go home, watch some movies, play on Facebook for a while, until I pass out.
I wake up in the afternoon, having accomplished absolutely nothing, and get ready for work. I don't go out. Nobody visits. It's really kind of sad how lonely my life has become. Not only that, but I have Tuesdays and Wednesdays off. Hardly conducive to being able to party with my friends.
This time away from everyone has given me an opportunity to see who my friends truly are. Most people I know are "Bar Friends". You know what I mean. People you see at your local watering hole, you're friends on Facebook, but never really hang out outside of that particular bar.
Most of the people I know are like this. And since I don't really go out anymore, it's almost like I know people that don't really exist outside of my head.
There have been some people, however, that I have had the opportunity to spend time with away from the bar scene, and I really appreciate them.
I have made plans to hang out with a couple other friends, as well, but since I don't really get to sleep until around 10 AM, it's pretty difficult to get up in time to meet them for drinks after work. I'm trying really had to remedy that.
I think what I'm saying is this: I need a life. Or a hobby. Any suggestions?
I ran into that a while back and used the opportunity to become comfortable with myself. I also found that it gave me more time to run, kayak, play music. Just as importantly I learned that, the friends who matter are just as busy as I am...and the solution was to schedule "friend dates." Lindsey and I meet for one Sunday breakfast a month. Lavon and I take turns taking each other to sushi. Another friend of mine and I run together. I know it sounds so "sellout-ish" but, once I started calendaring my life, I found I had much more of a social life. :)
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